My friend Carmen asked me to help her with a question she was having. Here is her question: I'm wondering about how to grow in not being so codependent, especially with work. I seem to keep repeating a pattern in life where I end up taking a lot of responsibility, working extremely hard, getting to be a bit work obsessed (it's all I can think about, constantly checking my email, etc), feeling depended upon and trapped and then wanting to quit. I'd love to break this cycle and find more psychic space in my life to be in more healthy balance with work, friends, spirituality and play.

Grief is a long lost friend. It is home. It is the arrival into Love itself. It reminds me that I am alive. That this thing is happening, right now, that needs my absolute full attention. Needs me to pull over the car, to sob and wail and laugh and scream. It commands my utmost respect. My awe. It is greater than the dream I have been in. This dream is made up of wants, desires, not enough, too much. Grief washes it away and brings me to the edge of death itself. I fear grief and then I welcome it. It washes through me and I am home.